Facebook and Me

I've been on Facebook since the days where you needed an academic email address to join, I think that was 2008. I joined in the rush of the non-profit technology cadre who were experimenting with new technology non-profit organizations might use...

Who Owns Our Histories?

If you are at all on twitter, or in trans or writer circles, you may have heard about a controversy regarding a book being written about a man named Dr. James Barry. The book was bought by a publisher, and it's author tweeted this about the book:...

Gratitude

Thanksgiving, as a United States holiday, has all sorts of complex and unfortunate historical baggage. And for many, it has unfortunate family baggage as well. But today, I just want to focus on gratitude. I've been on a social media and news...

Yes, This is Really All About Race

If you are a progressive Twitter user, you probably have been alerted to the open warfare between Amy Siskind and her (largely white) allies, and Imani Gandy (known as @AngryBlackLady on Twitter,) and her allies. It all started with the tweet...

The End of Civility

The philosopher Karl Popper is famous for a lot of things, but one of the things he is famous for is the "Paradox of Intolerance." The paradox is that if a society is tolerant of intolerance, the intolerant will eventually destroy the tolerant...

Straight Male Privilege is a Trip

So just first, to get this out of the way: I do not identify as straight. I identify currently as pansexual (that's a story for another blog entry,) and I am queer, and will always be queer, even if at any one moment (like this one) my romantic...

A New Kind of Pride

It's Pride month. That annual festival of queer celebration. My first Pride march was in 1985. I went down to Columbus, OH (Cleveland, where I lived at the time, didn't have a Pride march yet.) I was 25 years old, freshly minted lesbian, marching...

Being Part of an Avalanche of Love

I have a confession to make: I don't think this country is going to survive the next several years intact. But I have decided to put that feeling on hold - to pretend I don't believe it. I'm going to pretend that a difference can be made - that...

Healing

One week ago today, I stood in front of my plastic surgeon as she drew on my chest. I felt like she was performing her art on me, which, I guess, she was. Next thing I knew, I was waking up, groggy and out of it, looking out of the …

Becoming a Man in the #MeToo Moment

I've been thinking a lot about becoming a man. I mean of course I have, but more deeply than just this transition process. In my adult life, I have been spared from sexual harassment. I think that's largely because I have been gender...