A New Kind of Pride

It's Pride month. That annual festival of queer celebration. My first Pride march was in 1985. I went down to Columbus, OH (Cleveland, where I lived at the time, didn't have a Pride march yet.) I was 25 years old, freshly minted lesbian, marching...

Being Part of an Avalanche of Love

I have a confession to make: I don't think this country is going to survive the next several years intact. But I have decided to put that feeling on hold - to pretend I don't believe it. I'm going to pretend that a difference can be made - that...

Healing

One week ago today, I stood in front of my plastic surgeon as she drew on my chest. I felt like she was performing her art on me, which, I guess, she was. Next thing I knew, I was waking up, groggy and out of it, looking out of the …

Becoming a Man in the #MeToo Moment

I've been thinking a lot about becoming a man. I mean of course I have, but more deeply than just this transition process. In my adult life, I have been spared from sexual harassment. I think that's largely because I have been gender...

What's Coming in 2018

I was pondering what to write for a New Year's post. I don't generally do a post for New Year's, but somehow it seemed a good idea for this year. For one, it's a big year for me. Two, I think it's a big year for all of us - at …

New Year, New Voice, New Name, New Life

So it's 2018. It's a big year for me. It's the year I will emerge visually as a man. I'm having top surgery on February 6th. I've been on Testosterone now for 4 months, and my voice, as well as other things, have really changed: [audio...

Spiritual and Emotional Work

Ever since I was in my mid-20s, I have been committed to growth and consciousness/awareness. Perhaps it's been life-long, but it's at least been conscious since that time. Part of it is just what I'm made of, and part of it is that I could see,...

Max and Michelle

Seven years ago, I wrote this short piece in a writing workshop. (Originally, the name in the piece was "Michael" but I've changed it to "Max" as that is my chosen name.) "Maxwell stays like a wish" Max is always there, my best buddy in the...

I'm Coming Out

Right now, I'm playing the hit Diana Ross sang in the 1980's (written by Bernard Edwards and Nile Rodgers) "I'm Coming Out." It has been such an anthem in my life, as in the lives of many queer people. I can't even count how many gay bars,...

Coming out

I came out publicly as a lesbian in 1985. And it was largely a non-event. My family accepted me fully, I lost a couple of friends, but it was largely painless. It didn't effect my work life, thankfully. And as time went on, and I kept living out...