Big Decisions

This has been a very interesting step-by-step process, in a way, but it all sort of came to a head a few days ago, and I think I'm finally caught up with myself. That is, I've made the decision to partake of most of the menu I mentioned. I had …

What I Have to Say Today

I've been triggered, greatly, by the events of the last two days. Not because I didn't expect it. Not because #ThisIsNotUs. But because I knew it was going to happen, but I didn't really want to believe that it would. I'm not including any...

The Gym

At varied times in my life, I've been a gym rat. I've always enjoyed lifting weights - I would say it's my favorite exercise. I spent a number of years away from the gym, but I'm back now. I don't just lift weights - one of the other things I happen to …

Coming Out As Trans

I'm still not sure I identify as "trans", although I've slowly but surely begun to realize that perhaps I've been avoiding that identity because it scares me. I've identified as genderqueer pretty much the moment I heard that term, in the...

Top Surgery

On Friday, I'm going to see a surgeon. I'm one of the lucky ones, living in California. My insurance will pay entirely for gender surgery. A few weeks ago (was it only that long ago?) I called Kaiser, that has a specialized transgender clinic in...

Beginnings

I have to start somewhere - although I don't really know where. Do I start at the point where I hated wearing girl's clothes when I was a kid? Do I start with the running battles I had with my mother about what I was going to wear? I'm wanting to …

You're Not Off The Hook Just Because You Don't Have Privilege

Preface: This is only about interactions and conversations with people who are active, committed allies. This is NOT about conversations with anyone in the alt-right, or your sexist, homophobic uncle. I see this dynamic play out over, and over,...

I Read Tuvel's Article, So You Don't Have To.

There has been quite the uproarabout an article in the journal Hypatia on "transracialism" by Rebecca Tuvel. It's creating a real controversy in feminist academia and philosophy. So first off, I'm not a philosopher. I took one philosophy course...

I'm a Primitive Christian (among other things)

I've been attending Quaker Meeting lately (off and on for about 2 years, regularly for 6 months now.) In particular, Redwood Forest Friends Meeting in Santa Rosa, CA. I've been struck by a number of things about it, which I'll be writing more...

Three Communities, Right Now

I am likely one of a very few people who has nosebleed seats to the goings on in three different communities right now. I say nosebleed because I'm not closely involved in any one of these controversies, but because of my spiritual, avocational,...